Although everyone grieves differently, there will be others who are going through something similar to you. Find someone who has been there too. You can support and comfort each other in ways others would not be able too.

Who can you reach out to at this very moment?

Chelsea

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Are you reluctant to seek help because you don’t want to be a burden? Do you think you are supposed to be strong and self-reliant? Now is the time to release these conditioned patterns and limiting thoughts.

You have suffered a huge loss, and you need comfort. People will want to help you, especially those who have traveled the path of grief before you. If you have never asked for help, this is the time to seriously consider seeking support.

Wishing you the courage to seek support,

Chelsea

COPYRIGHT 2012, With Sympathy Gifts and Keepsakes, LLC.

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Prescription:  Patience, 100 mg.  A daily dose of patience (100 mg) each morning will fortify you to be patient with yourself, giving yourself time to grieve. Don’t be in a rush. Wallow in your grief. Feel every emotion. “Name it and claim it,” as TV’s Dr. Phil advises. You need to have patience while grieving.

Listen to your heart. Do what helps, not what others think you should do. Feel the burdens of anger, guilt, loneliness, sadness and confusion slip away as you deal openly with each emotion. Go slowly.

Discover what you can do, and do it with all your heart.

Each day, I did what I could, which was only a fraction of what I had accomplished before. I just didn’t have the energy to deal with everything. I had to learn to pick and choose what would make up my day, doing only those things that would give me a lift. Whenever I got overtired, I was a puddle of tears, so I had to learn my limits. Patiently, I had to “reinvent” myself as I created my “new normal,” the new me doing the new things that brought some joy back into my life.

By Elaine Stillwell Grief Digest Magazine – December 7, 2012

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Do you truly believe a renewed and joyful life is possible for you? Perhaps your grief is too fresh, your hurt too intensely felt for such a belief to be more than a fleeting thought.

It is possible though; you will find joy again – make the commitment to seek joy out in the small moments of the day. Those small moments will be as seeds in the garden, and soon they will multiply in number. Life’s garden will once again be bountiful.

Notice the laughter of children, the beautiful day, the smile of others, the change in the seasons, the love of others in your life.

Go ahead. Make the promise to yourself. After all, your loved one would want you to live your life fully, deeply and, joyously.

Quotation for the Day:
“When a man takes an oath… he’s holding his own self in his own hands. Like water.” ~ Robert Bolt

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Just Because You See No Tears…

The poem below was published by Compassionate Friends, and shows the silent anguish a mother feels as she grieves for her child.  So you don’t feel as alone as this mother does, please find support for yourself.  If possible, find a confident or a helpful friend, who you can share your feelings with to avoid bottling your grief and pain.

If you are not sure if someone can serve in that role,  just let the person know that it is okay to talk about your loved one who died.  In fact, let the person know that you welcome such conversations or that it is okay to talk about the person you lost.  If they show they can help you, please take them up on their support.  You may find that some people will not support you, please just forgive these people as they do not understand. And instead, find those who can empathize with you and be sensitive to your grieving heart.

And remember, to let others know what you need or how you feel, you can simply start the conversation with……..“Just because you see no tears, doesn’t mean…”

Don’t think I do not feel;
because you see no tears.
A river rages deep inside
of grief, and loss, and fears.
Just because I do not cry now,
don’t think my heart’s not broken.
I keep inside the misery
of words not to be spoken.
Sometimes I smile, or crack a joke,
so you won’t see the pain;
or notice how my hands will shake,
or how I’ve gone insane.
Each time I chance to think of her,
my heart is ripped asunder.
The loss I feel is mine alone.
You will not see my thunder.
~attributed to Brenda Penepent

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The mention of my child’s name
May bring tears to my eyes,

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Sometimes other people try to help you get out of your grief by offering advice or “constructive criticism.” They may admonish you to “get over it” or to “get back into life.” These comments can hurt.

Remember, you have an insight into the grieving process that these people do not have. You know that the length of the grieving process is different for each person. You know you have to let the grieving process take place, because if you try to rush it, you will only prolong the healing.
Be at peace with where you are emotionally, and listen to the love behind the words of others. They so want you to be happy.

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Read this message from a mom who lost a child, and you will know that it is better to ask, than say nothing at all….. Lets break the grief myth that it’s better not to ask.

Sympathy Support - "Hello from Heaven"

From Barbara Taylor Hudson 

Someone asked me about you today.

It’s been so long since anyone has done that.

It felt so good to talk about you,

to share my memories of you,

to say your name out loud.

She asked me if I minded talking

about what happened to you

or if it would be too painful

to speak of it.

I told her that I think of it

every day,

and speaking about it

helps me to release

the tormented thoughts

whirling around in my head.

She sad that she never realized

the pain would last this long.

She apologized for not asking sooner.

I told her, “Thanks for asking.”

I don’t know if was curiosity

or concern

that made her ask,

but I told her,

“Please do it again sometime soon.”

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