Is there any better way to express yourself than through song? Music is such a beautiful way to share your thoughts and convey your emotion. Song lyrics can help put our thoughts into words when we can’t find the words ourselves. A melody can enhance that message to convey our true emotions. When planning a funeral for your loved one, it’s important to put some thought into your musical selections. You want the music to serve as a reflection of your loved one’s life as well as everyone’s feelings towards the departed. Here are 3 tips to guide you in your musical selection for your loved one’s funeral.

1. Follow Ceremony Guidelines

If the funeral is going to be incorporated into a religious ceremony, it’s a good idea to check with a clergy member to see if there are any guidelines that you have to adhere to. For example, some Churches might have rules against playing secular music during the service. A clergy member might also be able to provide you with resources and suggestions to help you choose appropriate and meaningful liturgical music for the funeral.

2. Meaningful Musicians

Is there anyone in your family or within your loved one’s circle of friends who can play a musical instrument or sing? Having someone with a personal relationship with the deceased provide the music is a wonderful way to add a personal touch to the music during the funeral. Of course, you want to make sure the musician feels up to it. The day of the funeral will be a very emotional day for everyone, and you don’t want to push the person to do something they don’t feel comfortable with.

If you do have a family member or friend willing to provide music during the funeral, find out if they have a special song that they really feel strongly about and take their advice on what they think they will be able to execute.

3. What Would Your Loved One Like?

Once you have researched the musical guidelines and have established who will be singing or playing the music during the funeral, it’s time to start thinking about what your loved one would like. If they had a favorite song or artist that is appropriate to play during the visitation or during or after the service, try to find a way to work it in. Perhaps your loved one even shared with you their wishes for funeral music before they passed away. If so, do your best to honor those wishes. If you don’t think their favorite song will fit into the service, try to find one that will remind people of your loved one.

There’s a lot to think about when planning a funeral, but don’t overlook the musical selection. The music played throughout the day will set the tone for the day so be sure to put some time and thought into making your choices.