Once the dust starts to settle and you get back to your daily routine following the death of your loved one, you might start thinking about what to do with your loved one’s belongings. You’ll start thinking about this when you open your closet and see your late husbands suites hanging in there, or walk past your child’s room and see their bed the way they left it. Eventually you might decide that it’s time to do something with your loved one’s possessions. What you choose to do with them is entirely up to you and your family, but there are a few things to think about to prepare for this momentous project. Here are 3 tips to prepare yourself to go through your departed loved one’s belongings.

1. Do it When You’re Ready

There’s no timeline for going through your loved one’s belongings. It is entirely up to you to decide if or when to do this. Some people like to see their departed loved one’s belongings randomly throughout the day. It also might take you a while to feel like you can physically go through their things without breaking down. If the thought of getting rid of your loved one’s possessions makes you feel sad or guilty, then you’re not ready. Don’t force yourself to do something you don’t want to do.

2. Invite Your Family to Help You

Once you’re ready to go through your loved one’s belongings invite your family to help you with the process. You’ll be surprised how many wonderful memories this activity will stir up and the fun you could have sharing these memories as a family. You may also want to pass on some of your loved one’s belongings to your family members, and this is the perfect opportunity to do so.

3. Do it on a “Good Day”

If you plan on going through your loved one’s belongings this weekend, but Saturday comes and you wake up feeling terrible, don’t force it. Some days are just better than others when you’re grieving, so be sure to go through your departed loved one’s possessions on a day that you are in a good place. You’re going to get emotional at some point during the process no matter what, but if you try to push through despite your somber mood, this activity will be even more difficult.

The most important thing to remember when you plan to go through your loved one’s possessions is to do it if and when you are ready. Additionally, don’t feel like you have to purge your house of all of their belongings. Be sure to pick out the things that matter most to you and keep them as treasured memories of the person you love and miss so deeply.