The loss of a loved one is not something anyone should have to go through alone. Find someone to share your grief with to lighten the load and ease the pain. It could be someone who was also close to your loved one and is grieving with you, or just a good friend who is willing to listen and be there for you when you need them. You need someone to share your grief and help ease the loss.

1. Open Up

The longer you try to hold in your grief, the harder it will be to move on after the death of a loved one. There are going to be times when you really don’t feel like talking about it. Don’t force yourself. You’ll open up when you’re ready, but don’t intentionally hold it in because you think it’s the right thing to do. Once you’re ready to talk, find someone you trust and let it all out.

2. Pick up the Phone

Even your closest family members and friends are not mind readers. You are the only one who knows how you’re feeling. If you’re feeling particularly down one day, pick the phone and call someone. Anyone. Your friends and family know that you’re going through a hard time so they’ll be happy you called on them to help share your grief and ease your loss.

3. Take Your Mind Off it

Sharing your grief doesn’t always have to revolve around your lost loved one. In fact, one of the best ways a person can share your grief is to help take your mind off of it. Don’t be afraid to have some fun, even when you’re grieving. Call up a friend or family member when you need to take a break from being sad. Even if it’s just to get out of the house for an hour or two.

Don’t carry the burden of death alone. Allow yourself to alleviate the pain by calling upon the people around you for help.