When someone is diagnosed with cancer, the devastation spreads far beyond just the person who is diagnosed. Everyone close to that person feels the pain, but few will feel pain as great as the person’s spouse. The spouse is dealing with the fact that they may lose their best friend and partner in life forever. They need your support right now and it’s up to you to find a way to do that.  Here are 3 tips to support the spouse of someone with cancer.

Thinking of You

Anytime you happen to think of your friend, let them know, whether it’s with a card just to let them know you’re thinking of them, or a phone call to check in and see how their doing. Don’t wait for them to come to you for support. Reach out to them because chances are, they won’t ask for help even if they need it.

Fun Day Out

Help take their mind off the issue at hand. Thinking about their spouse’s cancer all day, every day isn’t going to help make it go away and it isn’t productive. Invite your friend to spend the day with you. Take them golfing or on a shopping trip. It doesn’t really matter what you do as long as you find something fun to take his or her mind off of the daily burden of cancer.

Make a Meal

Especially when the spouse is going through treatments, there is the tendency to spend long hours in the hospital. Between hospital visits, work and the events of everyday life, your friend may not have time to prepare dinner most nights. Offer to bring a meal over to the house one night so that the family can enjoy a home-cooked meal together without the work of preparing it or cleaning up.

Since you can’t do anything to rid your friend’s spouse of cancer, you must do the only thing you have control over, and that’s to be there for your friend and show your support. If you still can’t decide the best way to show your support, think about what you would want someone to do for you if you were in that situation. No matter what you do, your friend will recognize your compassion and appreciate your kindness.