Be Compassionate – 6 Guidelines for Helping a Grieving Friend
- Give your friend permission to express his or her feelings without fear of criticism. Let your friend feel safe with you.
- Learn from your friend; don’t instruct or set expectations about how he or she should respond. Be open to what happens.
- Think about your helper role as someone who “walks with,” not “behind” or “in front of” the one who is mourning. Walk with your friend through the grief journey.
- Allow your friend to experience all the hurt, sorrow and pain that he or she is feeling at the time. Don’t try to “fix” things.
- Enter into your friend’s feelings, but never try to take them away. Don’t try to offer solutions.
- And recognize that tears are a natural and appropriate expression of the pain associated with the death. Let your friend cry…
- Information from the Grief Works Library by Dr. Alan Wolfelt
- See the complete library at www.WithSympathyGifts.com/resources