Why is it that the negative things in life have a tendency to overshadow the good? You could have everything going for you; a great job and a loving family, but then tragedy strikes, and suddenly, all of that means nothing. Inc. Magazine’s 6th tip for ensuring that a bad morning doesn’t turn into a bad day, is to focus on what’s going well. This same principle can be applied to your entire life to ensure that one tragedy doesn’t overshadow all of the positive things happening in your life.

Count Your Blessings Daily

When someone close to you dies, it can feel like your entire world is crashing down. Suddenly, nothing seems to be going right. But I bet if you stopped to think about it, you still have a lot going for you. A good way to remind yourself of all the things going well in your life is to make a list. Think about all aspects of your life, including family, friends, your job and any activities or sports that you participate in. Keep this list in a prominent place in your house or office and use it as a daily reminder of all of the things that are going well in your life.

Another great way to remind yourself about all of the things that are going well in your life is to thank God for all of your blessings when you say your daily prayers. Think through everything you are grateful for and say each blessing one by one during your prayer.

Allow Yourself to Enjoy

Following the death of a loved one, it can feel like nothing in you life is going well because you don’t let yourself enjoy the things that are going well. If you receive that promotion at work while you are grieving, suddenly it doesn’t seem so desirable. Even if you are a little excited about it, you feel guilty for even having those feelings. But the truth is, you should be able to enjoy the positive things in life, even when you are grieving. Your departed loved one would want you to.

You can choose to focus on the good and enjoy the things that are going well, or you can spend your time dwelling on the things that have gone wrong in your life. It’s up to you.  Make it a point of counting your blessings and finding joy in the positive things in life. When you find yourself getting hung up on the loss of your loved one, refer to your list and be thankful for what you still have going for you.