Grief has a way of making people feel and act differently than they normally would. It’s important that you acknowledge that and give yourself a break as you grieve. Maybe you just don’t feel like going to the gym today. Then don’t go. Recognize the fact that you’re going through a very difficult time right now, and make a few exceptions. Remember to be gentle with yourself while grieving.

Treat Yourself

Some days are just going to be tough. You miss your loved one and you’re sad about the loss. On those days, find a way to treat yourself. It will lift your spirits and temporarily take your mind off of your loss. Whether it’s indulging in your favorite movie or stopping for ice cream on the way home from work, find a way to treat yourself on the more difficult days.


Set aside some time to relax. Give yourself a break from the hectic flow of everyday life to relax and unwind. If you never stop to take time for yourself, you risk missing out on the necessary grieving that must happen after a loss.

Give Yourself a Break

When we grieve, there’s potential to act out of character. It’s normal to not quite be yourself during a time of sadness. For example, perhaps you’re normally quite easy-going, but today you snapped at a co-worker. Don’t beat yourself up over it. Simply apologize and move on. People understand that grieving takes its toll on your emotions.

Make Allowances

When you’re grieving a loss, it can be hard to stay motivated. It’s easy to become distracted and often the task at hand just doesn’t seem that important anymore. On days that you just can’t meet your deadlines, cut yourself a break. Break up your projects into smaller tasks and give yourself a break between each task.

The loss of your loved one is hard enough on you, don’t let yourself beat yourself up for not performing at your best. Allow yourself to coast a little, even if it is just for a moment. Find little ways to alleviate the pain and get through this difficult time.