After losing your spouse, you feel like you may never enjoy cooking or eating again. You may find yourself ordering carryout, eating on the couch instead of the table, or not eating much at all. Not having an appetite can last for a long time.  Be patient. Do not focus your attention on eating a full meal at the table. There is no rule that says you have to. You may get there someday.

During this time, it is important to keep your mind and body well nourished so make sure to keep healthy food on hand. Cut up fruits and vegetables ahead of time so it is easy to grab something. Make simple meals that you can freeze and heat up.

If you feel like exploring the world of cooking again there are some cookbooks you can turn to. Legendary editor Judith Jones writes “The Pleasures of Cooking for One”. She demonstrates that cooking for yourself can be incredibly healing and bring you much joy. She too had to learn to feed herself after grieving. After her husband Evan died, she stated “I was not sure that I would ever enjoy preparing a meal for myself and eating it alone”. She adds, “the pleasure we shared together was something to honor. I found myself at the end of the day looking forward to cooking, making recipes that work for one, and then sitting down and savoring a good meal.” The kitchen can be a way back into the world, as well as a way to express your creativity.