It doesn’t matter how old you are. When you lose a parent, you may not feel strong enough to cope and may feel somewhat childlike. Even though you are an adult you have lost the person to whom you were a child. The responsibilities of your daily life including work, your own kids, and home may make it easy to hide your grief and childlike feelings. However, this is a profound loss that must be grieved. Especially, if this is the second parent you lost. If you bury your feelings in responsibilities, you will probably experiences some intense emotional outbursts.
Allow yourself to be a son or daughter in your grief. Release the external pressure you are feeling to be a fully functioning adult. You need to give yourself permission to grieve. Reach out to your spouse and a network you feel you can be open with. Explain to them your feelings and ask them for their support. Whether it is giving you some time to cry or having them take over some responsibilities at home for awhile, you need to take care of yourself. You may want to reach out to people who have lost a parent as well because it can be very difficult for people to understand your feelings if they haven’t experienced losing their parent.